Abuse,depression and life sometimes causes isolation from other people. It’s hard to socialize and see other people. I find myself in a very dark place when after I stepped away from the abusive relationship I was in and finding myself with all the bills and the discomfort of being alone,talking on the phone and socializing was just not on my radar. I needed help filling out my divorce papers and decided I would reach out to a friend for help,this friend I thought had abandoned me,only to find out she is just trying to cope with life’s everyday issues and it wasn’t about me. Depression will do that to you,you constantly feel as if the world has abandoned you. So after talking with my friend and having her tell me off for not confiding in her that I have been out of work,could not pay the bills and most importantly had no food,she rushed right over to make sure I had dinner that night. My blessings didn’t stop there,the following night another friend texted to see how I was and so I confided in her what I was going through and that angered her. “After all you have been doing for everyone else you kept that to yourself” she said. Then she rallied into action to get me groceries and money to buy necessary items from the store. I was baffled at the kindness,I’m usually giving to a fault but I have never been given anything and her kindness shocked me.
Don’t underestimate the power of friendship,it is a very strong and powerful connection. If you just need someone to talk to or cry to and you have someone you believe to be your good friend you should go ahead and call that person. You should not let pride get in your way because it only proves that you don’t value your friend’s friendship as much as he/she does. Friends are usually there for each other no matter what so if you cannot trust your friend to have your back means you just don’t trust the friendship and that you don’t believe in your friendship.
I have a new take on friendship and now even if I believe that I’m not in mood to pick up the phone and say hello I now know that I will at least try to make that effort because really good friends are hard to find and even harder to keep. My friends have uplifted me emotionally,mentally and even financially and with that support I was able to get myself out of my funk. I was able to find the strength that was in me and started my quest of looking for another job,I haven’t found one yet but I now have hope and through my prayers and new found strength given to be by my friends I now believe I will be fine. So give your friends a chance to be friends and don’t wait to realize that they are really good friends when you are down and under.
Call or test your friends right now and just say hello and even let them know you are glad they are your friends.
Until next time we talk,be a good friend.